I wrote eight rules for women in relationships when I was in my twenties.

It was called The Words I Didn’t Listen To.

Then I ignored every single one.

I was divorced in my thirties.

I thought I had a fairy tale. I got married. I became a wife. I built part of my identity around that title because I thought it meant safety, covering, covenant, proof.

And somewhere in the middle of trying to be chosen, stay chosen, and keep the story together, I stopped listening to myself.

It took my divorce, my rebuilding, and me rereading my own book to snap out of it.

Because the wildest part was not that I did not know better.

I did.

Still Didn’t Listen is for the woman who knows something is off.

The woman who keeps explaining what should not require this much explanation.

The woman who has standards in her head, but negotiations in her real life.

The woman who keeps calling fear patience.

The woman who is not ready to tell everybody.

But privately?

She knows.

What happens when you start listening

For eight days, you’ll receive one private email from me.

One rule.

One piece of my story.

One question to sit with.

Not a course.

Not homework.

Not me telling you what to do.

Just the words I wish someone had said to me while I was still in it.

The 8 rules

1. At all times, know.

2. Wait with purpose.

3. Determine your correct and acceptable.

4. You have all the power.

5. Govern your goals.

6. Learn to play.

7. Act right.

8. Finally listen.

This is not relationship advice.

This is testimony.

I am not here to tell you whether to stay or leave.

I am here to sit beside the part of you that already knows and help you stop talking over her.

Still Didn’t Listen

8 days.
8 private emails.
$28.